tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-43847347114304600912023-11-15T10:28:01.367-08:00loto世界Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09888269839526659419noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4384734711430460091.post-60322397015779457502014-01-27T21:11:00.003-08:002014-01-27T21:11:13.714-08:00<table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" style="border-collapse: collapse; width: 762px;" x:str="">
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<td class="xl25" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt; width: 572pt;" width="762">大家<span class="font8">每天來上班</span><span class="font6">,會不會常常覺得工作不順利,跟同事的感情不好呢?</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">隔壁的同事對你講話老是酸溜溜,後面的同事老是愛打你的小報告</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">如果真的有這種情形,請大家千萬不要學半澤直樹:以牙還牙、十倍奉還喔!</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">現在我們用人際關係發展的五個階段,來切入主題</td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">讓大家在職場上能夠逢凶化吉、左右逢源</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">第1.接觸期(contact stage)</td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">人際關係的開始<span class="font6">,第一印象非常地重要,雙方第一次見面時,</span><span class="font8">一定都會先</span><span class="font7">打量對方</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">有些學者認為,在<span class="font8">一開始接觸</span><span class="font6">的四分鐘之內,</span><span class="font8">就已經決定了</span><span class="font6">我們是不是會喜歡這個人</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">所以請大家把握這四分鐘的寶貴時間,跟別人講話時眼睛要直視對方</td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">這樣可以克服害羞<span class="font6">,讓自己更有自信</span></td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">還有上班時<span class="font6">,不能老是躲在自己的</span><span class="font8">世界</span><span class="font6">裡,不靠近別人,也不讓別人靠近你</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">再來是微笑:不管你是<span class="font7">主管</span><span class="font6">、</span><span class="font7">老員工</span><span class="font6">、還是</span><span class="font7">菜鳥</span><span class="font6">,</span><span class="font8">請記得常常</span><span class="font6">露出</span><span class="font7">友善的笑容</span></td>
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<td class="xl28" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">因為人與人之間的關係就像一面鏡子,你對他微笑,他也會對你微笑<br /><br /><table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" style="border-collapse: collapse; width: 762px;" x:str="">
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt; width: 572pt;" width="762">在這一個階段裡面,我們會<span class="font9">更進一步的</span><span class="font6">去了解對方</span></td>
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<td class="xl25" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">這個時候<span class="font6">,雙方的個性、價值觀、工作態度,甚至是真面目,都會一一的顯露出來</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">所以在這個時候<span class="font9">就要展現</span><span class="font6">我們的誠信與力行</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">誠信就是:<span class="font7">做不到的事情不要說,說了就要努力做到</span></td>
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<td class="xl34" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">譬如說:Tommy今天答應幫Kyle倒垃圾</td>
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<td class="xl34" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">就算剛好今天的垃圾堆的跟山一樣高,Tommy也要<span class="font7">實現他的承諾</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">而力行就是<span class="font9">表現你的能力與本事</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">不要把所有的事情都推給別人做,因為<span class="font9">只有靠自己</span><span class="font6">的</span><span class="font7">努力跟表現</span><span class="font6">,才能贏得其他人的尊重</span></td>
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<td class="xl32" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">第3.熟悉期(intimacy stage)</td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">如果在投入期<span class="font7">雙方談話愉快</span><span class="font6">、越談越投機、甚至覺得相見恨晚的話,就會進入熟悉期</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">在這一個階段,同事間相處的時間更增加,可能下班後會一起去吃飯,或假日一起出去玩</td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">但越是熟悉<span class="font6">的同事,</span><span class="font9">越應該要</span><span class="font7">互相關心體諒</span></td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">對同事犯的小過錯<span class="font6">不要斤斤計較,得理不饒人</span></td>
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<td class="xl35" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">譬如說:Tommy<span class="font7">今天因為肚子很餓</span><span class="font8">,不小心吃了Kyle</span><span class="font7">最愛吃的餅干</span></td>
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<td class="xl35" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">但Kyle不能因為這樣,就把Tommy罵得狗血淋頭,應該要體諒Tommy的肚子…真的很容易餓</td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">如果萬一<span class="font6">,</span><span class="font7">雙方發生衝突</span><span class="font6">的時候,一定要用溝通來解決</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">有很多人都<span class="font7">誤以為</span><span class="font6">溝通就是要</span><span class="font9">拼命說出</span><span class="font7">自己的看法</span><span class="font6">,希望對方能改變,來配合自己</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">其實溝通的重點不是在『講』,而是在『聽』</td>
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<td class="xl28" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">一雙<span class="font7">願意聽別人意見</span><span class="font6">的耳朵,比一張</span><span class="font7">只顧著講話</span><span class="font6">的嘴巴更受歡迎</span></td>
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<td class="xl33" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">第4.惡化期(deterioration stage)</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">雖然不是所有的關係都會進入惡化期,但人與人之間的關係越是親密,就越容易發生衝突</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">如果同事的關係己經進入這個階段,<span class="font9">一碰面就會有</span><span class="font7">火爆的氣氛</span></td>
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<td class="xl25" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">這時就要保持<span class="font6">冷靜與度量,不要把</span><span class="font7">同事關係</span><span class="font6">變成</span><span class="font7">死對頭</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">真的吵得<span class="font6">不可開交的時候,可以採取“暫時離開”的辦法</span></td>
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<td class="xl34" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">譬如:可以跟對方說,我想<span class="font9">去一下廁所</span><span class="font8">,等一下我們再談</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">及時離開現場,不但可以<span class="font7">遠離風暴</span><span class="font6">,還可以</span><span class="font7">平復自己的心情</span></td>
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<td class="xl32" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">第5.分離期 ( Separate Stage )</td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">如果同事的關係已經惡化,卻不想辦法改善,繼續讓它爛下去</td>
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<td class="xl36" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">那就只能<span class="font6">進入分離期,老死不相往來了</span></td>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09888269839526659419noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4384734711430460091.post-59538539443252597422014-01-27T21:09:00.002-08:002014-01-27T21:09:22.159-08:00<table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" style="border-collapse: collapse; width: 762px;" x:str="">
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<td class="xl35" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt; width: 572pt;" width="762">人類是群居的動物,從古到今都是過著群居的生活,而群居生活就會牽扯到所謂的人際關係</td>
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<td class="xl24" height="23" style="border-top: none; height: 17.25pt;">在台灣這個小島上,人口密度高,<span class="font8">不跟人接觸</span><span class="font6">幾乎是不可能的</span></td>
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<td class="xl25" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">不管是食、衣、住、行、育、樂<span class="font6">,每一樣</span><span class="font8">都需要跟別人打交道</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">我們從出生,<span class="font8">就開始跟人產生互動</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">從<span class="font8">最早</span><span class="font6">所接觸的父母、家人…等等</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">到<span class="font8">進入社會之後</span><span class="font6">所接觸到的朋友、同事…等等</span></td>
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<td class="xl28" height="23" style="border-top: none; height: 17.25pt;">如果互動好,就能跟大家<span class="font11">和諧相處、肯定自我</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">互動不好時,<span class="font11">就會造成</span><span class="font6">許多的</span><span class="font8">困擾跟衝突</span></td>
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<td class="xl36" height="23" style="border-top: none; height: 17.25pt;">人際關係學家<span class="font6">卡內基曾經說過</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">一個人的成功15%是靠他的專業知識,85%則是靠他的人際關係</td>
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<td class="xl37" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">社會愈繁榮<span class="font6">,人際關係就愈複雜</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">只有人際關係良好的人,才能夠在<span class="font8">這個多元化的社會</span><span class="font6">生存下去</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">接下來我用3個故事<span class="font8">來舉例說明</span><span class="font6">,人際關係</span><span class="font8">對人產生了</span><span class="font6">什麼影響</span></td>
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<td class="xl38" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">第一個例子:經由人際關係而提升了社會地位</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">三國裡,曹操與劉備是大家都很熟悉的人物</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">但不管是<span class="font8">戰力、實力還是個人能力</span><span class="font6">,劉備根本比不上曹操</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">那劉備<span class="font8">憑什麼</span><span class="font6">跟曹操、孫權三分天下呢?</span><span class="font11">他的密技是什麼</span><span class="font6">?其實答案就是"人心",</span><span class="font8">也就是人際關係</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">劉備這個人<span class="font8">講感情</span><span class="font6">、</span><span class="font8">重朋友</span><span class="font6">,</span><span class="font8">對人很誠懇</span><span class="font6">、</span><span class="font8">很講信義</span><span class="font6">,對老百姓也很仁慈</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">所以很多人願意死心塌地的跟著他,包括張飛、關羽,甚至是諸葛亮</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">有<span class="font8">玩過三國志遊戲的人</span><span class="font6">應該都知道,劉備在裡面的魅力值超高的</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">就是因為他<span class="font8">有這種號召人心</span><span class="font6">的力量,才能</span><span class="font8">在赤壁之戰後</span><span class="font6">跟曹操他們平起平坐</span></td>
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<td class="xl38" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">第二個例子:因為人際關係增加了就業機會</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">這是一個真實的故事:</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">在一個風雨交加的夜晚,有一對老夫婦<span class="font8">走進一間飯店</span><span class="font6">,想要住一晚</span><span class="font7"> </span><span class="font10">(就是圖片中這對老夫婦)</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">飯店的晚班服務生跟他們說:不好意思!<span class="font8">今天的房間都被訂滿了</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">可是<span class="font8">現在</span><span class="font6">外面風雨很大,如果你們不介意,要不要住我的房間?</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">雖然沒有很豪華,可是蠻乾淨的,<span class="font8">老夫婦最後住了下來</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">隔天老夫婦<span class="font8">要Check
Out的時候</span><span class="font6">,服務生跟他們說:你們住的不是飯店的客房,所以不需要收費</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">老先生非常稱讚地跟他說:你是每個飯店老闆夢寐以求的員工,<span class="font8">或許改天</span><span class="font6">我可以幫你蓋一棟飯店</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">結果幾年之後,服務生收到<span class="font8">老先生寄來的掛號信</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">信裡面有一張邀請卡和紐約的來回機票,<span class="font8">邀請他到紐約</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">服務生到了紐約之後,老先生<span class="font8">帶他到曼哈頓第5街跟第34街的路口</span></td>
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<td class="xl33" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">那個路口蓋了一棟<span class="font8">華麗的新大樓</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">老先生跟他說:這是我為你蓋的飯店,希望你來替我經營</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">這棟飯店就是紐約非常有名的華爾道夫飯店</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">飯店的內部非常豪華,是<span class="font11">世界各國的元首</span><span class="font6">到紐約的時候,</span><span class="font8">住宿的第一個選擇</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">而那個晚班服務生就是這棟飯店的<span class="font8">第一任總經理</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">他因為這種<span class="font8">為人著想的態度</span><span class="font6">改變了一生的命運</span></td>
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<td class="xl39" height="23" style="border-top: none; height: 17.25pt;">第三個例子:藉由人際關係來吸收新資訊</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">剛剛我們講了劉備跟曹操,現在我們來講諸葛亮,他是中國歷史上最傳奇的人物</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">不管是<span class="font8">「借東風」</span><span class="font6">、</span><span class="font8">「草船借箭」</span><span class="font6">還是</span><span class="font8">「空城計」…</span><span class="font6">等等,都讓大家印象深刻</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">但事實上,諸葛亮能從一個<span class="font8">默默無聞</span><span class="font6">的老百姓,</span><span class="font11">變成</span><span class="font6">天下聞名的</span><span class="font8">軍事政治家</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">跟他<span class="font8">龐大的人際關係</span><span class="font6">有很大的</span><span class="font8">關聯</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">其實諸葛亮的人際關係並不複雜,大致上是由親戚圈、同學圈、婚姻圈所組成</td>
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<td class="xl30" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">先來看諸葛亮的親戚圈</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">諸葛亮是個孤兒,<span class="font8">是由叔叔撫養長大的</span><span class="font6">,</span><span class="font11">本來</span><span class="font6">他的親戚關係應該很簡單</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">但是只要跟諸葛亮有沾上一點點親戚關係的,他都會經常去走動走動,聯絡一下感情</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">諸葛亮有兩個堂姐,兩個人都<span class="font8">嫁給了荊州的貴族</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">因為他跟堂姐們感情很好,所以諸葛亮跟那些貴族都有來往</td>
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<td class="xl40" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">再來看諸葛亮的同學圈</td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">諸葛亮的成績<span class="font8">不算很頂尖</span><span class="font6">,但是</span><span class="font8">教他的2個老師</span><span class="font6">都是名師</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">而且<span class="font8">名師出高徒</span><span class="font6">,諸葛亮的同學</span><span class="font11">也都</span><span class="font6">很優秀,</span><span class="font11">每個後來都是</span><span class="font6">各國的狠角色</span></td>
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<td class="xl29" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">因為諸葛亮<span class="font8">很注重同學之間的聯繫</span><span class="font6">,所以</span><span class="font8">這方面的人際關係</span><span class="font6">非常堅固</span></td>
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<td class="xl34" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">最後說到諸葛亮的婚姻圈,這是他<span class="font10">人際關係中的一大亮點</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">大家都知道,諸葛亮是個帥哥,史書用“身長八尺,容貌甚偉”來形容他</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">古代八尺換算成現代大概是186公分左右</td>
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<td class="xl25" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">這樣一個<span class="font6">長得帥又有才華的男人,</span><span class="font8">理論上應該</span><span class="font6">配大喬小喬那種等級的美女</span></td>
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<td class="xl37" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">但相反地<span class="font6">,他娶了一個醜老婆,</span><span class="font11">而且對她忠貞不二</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">諸葛亮的老婆<span class="font8">名字叫黃碩</span><span class="font6">,人如其名,</span><span class="font8">身材很壯碩</span><span class="font6">-->黃頭髮,黑皮膚,皮膚上還有一些雞皮疙瘩</span></td>
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<td class="xl25" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">雖然長得不漂亮,但她聰明又善良</td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">諸葛亮的岳父黃承彥,<span class="font11">是當時的社會名流</span><span class="font6">,他一直很</span><span class="font8">欣賞</span><span class="font6">諸葛亮,很想把女兒嫁給他</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">有一天他對諸葛亮說:我有一個女兒,人長得很醜,可是很有才華,你願意娶她嗎?</td>
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<td class="xl37" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">沒想到<span class="font6">諸葛亮二話不說就答應了</span></td>
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<td class="xl26" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">諸葛亮一答應,黃承彥<span class="font11">馬上親自</span><span class="font6">把他的女兒送去荊州,讓諸葛亮沒有反悔的機會</span></td>
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<td class="xl27" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">不過諸葛亮<span class="font11">也憑著</span><span class="font8">他岳父的人際關係</span><span class="font6">,認識了很多</span><span class="font11">達官貴人</span></td>
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<td class="xl28" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">就是因為有<span class="font11">這些強大的人際關係</span><span class="font6">在支撐</span></td>
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<td class="xl31" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">所以諸葛亮就像是<span class="font8">中情局局長</span><span class="font6">一樣,</span><span class="font11">隨時有</span><span class="font9">一票情報員</span><span class="font6">在幫他收集情報</span></td>
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<td class="xl32" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">雖然他隱居了十幾年<span class="font6">,但消息靈通的</span><span class="font8">程度</span><span class="font6">就像天羅地網一樣</span></td>
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<td class="xl41" height="23" style="height: 17.25pt;">誰家<span class="font6">的小狗生了小貓都逃不過他的</span><span class="font11">眼線</span></td>
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